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In the state of Oklahoma there are a few options for couples who are looking for a divorce. The first option is called limited divorce and is similar to what is known as a trial separation in other states. Limited divorce will take away the rights for the couple to live together but will not affect any other legal status. So, from a legal standpoint the couple is still considered married, but not living together. This leaves the door open for the couple to possibly get back together in the future.

Another option for divorce in Oklahoma is called absolute divorce. This option is for those who have experienced marital misconduct or other statutory causes that interfere with a healthy relationship. This is an option for those who wish to end their marriage all together. This option is for those who wish to close all doors, and not even have the option of getting back together in the future. The one condition for this option is that the couple must remain residents of the state of Oklahoma for at least six months for the divorce to take effect.

The third available option is called a ‘no-fault’ divorce. This option was first enabled in the state of Oklahoma and allows a couple to end a marriage without revealing any public information on why the relationship failed. This option allows for a small amount of privacy which can make difficult times seem a little bit easier.

The characteristics of a divorce lawyer are important to consider when seeking legal representation. Whether your divorce is highly contested or if you are close to settling all or most of the major issues pertaining to your divorce such as child custody and visitation, division of property, and support, the following characteristics of a prospective divorce lawyer should be considered.

(1) Proactive
(2) Willingness to negotiate
(3) Assertive
(4) Approachable
(5) Problem solver

Proactive
Proactive divorce lawyers often keep the opposing party on the defensive. Rather than reacting to the opposing counsels requests, a proactive attorney will have a strategy and often initiate action requiring the other party to respond or react. When done effectively, the opposing party may find themselves responding and reacting with little or no opportunity to go on the offensive.

Willingness to negotiate
Cases in which the parties are close to settling all or some of their divorce issues can benefit from divorce lawyers that are willing to help negotiate settlements out-of-court. Additionally, much time, money, and stress associated with contested divorce cases can be drastically reduced. However, in highly contested divorces, negotiating settlements may not be an option and a good trial lawyer may be more valuable.

Assertive
An assertive divorce lawyer is typically confident, but not arrogant, and knows when it is ok to be assertive and when it is not. Additionally, such an attorney will often demonstrate confidence in the courtroom through his/her experience and may remain unemotional throughout your divorce proceedings. The attorney’s communication with the opposing counsel will typically be amicable, but when under attack, he/she will not be afraid to assert his/her client’s position.

Approachable
Approachable attorneys are easy to talk to and easy to get in contact with. When you request to speak with them they will make themselves available and return your call in a timely manner. However, an approachable attorney is not an attorney that will engage in meaningless conversations that have no relevance to your case. Typically, an approachable attorney will demonstrate good listening skills in a conversation and will politely inform you if they believe you are getting off the subject to make the best use of his/her time.

Problem solver
An attorney that demonstrates good problem solving skills will have a strategy for your case. Such attorneys are often willing to negotiate settlements when it makes sense, but are fully prepared for trial if matters cannot be settled out-of-court.

If you plan to retain a divorce lawyer to help you with your divorce, taking into consideration the above 5 traits of a prospective attorney before you hire him/her might save you a surprising amount of time, money, and stress during your divorce proceedings.

© 2006 Child Custody Coach

Normally, women in Texas suffer more financially than the men. This is especially true when both parties decide to a divorce. Why? Because by the time the couple decides to separate ways, the husband already has a stable job and the woman has already made a career as a perfect housewife –dish washing, cleaning, massaging the husband, and changing diapers. Thus, the woman’s standard of living decreases while the man’s increases. Most couples think that when they lead separate lives from their spouses, there’ll be no more financial difficulties. Actually, there are lots of financial matters involved in divorce. Consequently, most women suffer more when they are already separated than when they were still in the relationship. This consequence causes women not to pursue the divorce, thus, bears the pain of being in an unhappy relationship. Well, what women need to know to avoid this horrible event in her life is to seek legal counsel and learn about Texas tax law. Among the important Texas taxes that every couple must know is the area of divorce.

The divorce tax law is among the basic knowledge in the Texas tax law that everyone must know. Primarily because most young women of Texas do not realize that getting a divorce requires an extensive financial support; they just never thought that there might come a time that they need to be separated from their “loving” husbands. However, divorce is not automatic. Even the lawyers do not immediately file the case as long as they can still settle the issue between each party. If the lawyers see that the conflict would only bring more affliction to the family, then they would finally file the case. Needless to say, the attorney stands as the mediator of the two parties and their legal counsel. If no settlement is achieved, the case will be brought to court — surely causing thousands of dollars to be spent.

In Texas tax law, Dependency Exemptions are important. This law is only applied to the person who has custody of the children. This law means the tax deducted from the individual is lesser than the ordinary rate, depending on how many dependents that the person has. Another law is about the Selling of Personal Residence wherein the divorcing couple will not be taxed as much as $500,000 upon sale if they own the house for at least 5 years. Meanwhile, partnerships in the Transfer of Business Bonds, have certain tax issues like partnership gains and debt allocation. The transferee will only be taxed once the transferring process is done. The most important matter in divorce tax law is the Child Support System. The deduction of tax depends on the number of children that the person has. It ranges from 20%-40% of the person’s taxable income. Other payment that a voluntary party gives is not taxable and not considered as alimony.

Understanding the Texas tax law is not hard for all women who worry about their future without the support of their husband. It is also imperative to know the different Texas taxes to ensure financial security. Today, a lot of women in Texas are striving to increase their standard of living, separated or not, by finding ways on how to sustain their financial status. These women do these not only for themselves, but also for their children. Even though men usually support the children’s financial needs, more women strive to stand on their own to enable to give their children extra support when the spouses separate.

If you have been married, or lived together in a committed relationship, you are not nave about love and relationships. You know that a successful relationship is based on much more than physical attraction. It is based on common goals, values and beliefs. Successful relationships have a foundation of continual communication, respect and support for each other.

It is my goal through this series to prepare you not just for a relationship, but to allow a spiritual partner into your life. Some people call this finding your “soulmate”. In this relationship, you will not be asking the question, “what can you do for me”, but “what can I do for you!” You will gain great joy from being loving and giving, and your partner will feel the same way! That does NOT mean there will be no challenges. In fact, when you ask for your soul mate or a spiritual partner, that usually means spiritual growth…and that means constantly looking at yourself, evaluating your behavior, and making positive changes!

The number 1 fear I have witnessed in people thinking about starting a new relationship is the fear of falling in love and getting hurt again. If trust is an issue for you, then your goal is to learn how to trust yourself (not the other person) that no matter what happens, you can handle it! This means letting go of the unrealistic attempt to CONTROL the outcome of the relationship. Your new mantra has to be, “whatever happens…I can handle it!”

Are you really ready to date? Take this readiness test to see if you are ready to allow a new partner into your life:

Answer each question true or false

1. I have been divorced at least 6 months, or separated more than 1 year.
2. Any victimization feeling I had during my divorce has subsided.
3. I have taken responsibility for my divorce, and I have taken appropriate steps to recognize my part in the divorce and did the necessary work to make sure those particular behaviors/beliefs or actions to not recur in my next relationship.
4. I have dealt with the loss of dreams and future visions I had in my last relationship.
5. I now feel neutral towards my ex-partner.
6. I can put my children’s needs ahead of my own feelings towards my ex.
7. I have forgiven my previous partner.
8. I have forgiven myself for my part in the creation of our problems.
9. I know what my values and beliefs are, and I feel confident in myself.
10. I like myself; I just feel that my life would be even more fulfilled if I had someone to share it with.

If you answered true to 8 or more questions, then you are ready to date and seek your spiritual partner. If you honestly answered false to three or more of these questions, then it is time to work on yourself, hire a counselor or coach, attend a self-help group, or purchase some good books on self-growth after divorce . It is important for you to first become the person you want to be, who will then attract the person you want in your life.

For example, let’s say you want a person who is financially stable. This is important to you because during your last relationship, you had to file bankruptcy and that was emotionally difficult for you and you do not want to ever go through that again. As a coach I would ask you to examine your own beliefs around money and wealth.

What did you learn from your parents about finances?
Did you grow up feeling there would never be enough?
Did you play that out during your marriage by bringing your “never enough” beliefs to that relationship?
Did you attract the person you most feared, someone who was irresponsible with money?

Now, you don’t want to attract or create the same difficult financial situation with a new partner. So you must ask yourself, what is my current belief around manifesting abundance? If you are still stuck in the “not enough” place, then you will NOT attract financial stability into your life! I recommend that you work on releasing your fears around those issues. That is what I mean by working on any left over issues from the previous relationship before you can move forward in a really healthy way.

More food for thought: Have you dealt with your feelings around this transition in your life? Did you know that divorce is in the top 5 main stressors you can have in your life? It is normal to have experienced many tough feelings and emotions during this time period, such as loss, fear, resentment, doubt, anxiety, confusion, distrust, and feelings of being unproductive. Before you move on, it is necessary for you to have recognized and dealt with these feelings as they came up. Did you do that?

If you did the work I hope you did in the time period following your separation or divorce, and you know the answers to these questions:
~ What are the gifts of your relationship?
~ What did you learn?
~ What are you most thankful for?
My bet is that you are ready to start dating!

Now, as you get ready to date, it is important that your feelings be in the ballpark of anticipation, energized, confidence, satisfaction, focus and creativity. In my book, Transcend Through Divorce, my very first guideline is “Listen to others and then listen to your Intuition”. This is important because everyone you know is an expert on divorce and relationships and they are all ready to give you advice. In my 18 years as a family law attorney, I have heard some crazy advice! And I can tell you that people who listen to their own inner voice grow through divorce quicker than those who listen to everyone else. What is your own inner voice telling you about dating? Are you ready? Ask yourself, “why do I want to date? Am I only looking to date so that I can feel better about myself?” I have seen many people choose the dating route and get caught up in lustful feelings… because truthfully, it does feel good. In fact, it feels great to have someone in your life who thinks you are the greatest. But if it is only about lust, it is temporary…and what I want you for is the ability to create a conscious partnership.

If you have taken the path of self-growth after your last relationship and you are clear about your part in the divorce or breakup, you have forgiven your ex and you passed the readiness test, and you are able to articulate the gifts from your relationship and your intuition tells you YES!, then you are ready to start dating… go forth and be brave! Remember, have fun, be trusting (that does not mean be nave), be loving and KNOW that whatever comes your way, can handle it!

About Lori Rubenstein:

Family Law Attorney for 18 years
Certified Professional and Personal Life Coach…3 years
Co-Author of the best seller, Wake Up…Live the Life you Love!
Currently writing “Transcend Through Divorce”
Teacher of numerous classes, workshops and retreats, including “Dare To Transcend Through Divorce”, Facing your Fears, and Step-Up and Start Playing Big!
Lori Rubenstein, Dare to Transcend ©
© Yes, There is Life After Divorce. This article may be copied or distributed as long as it is used in its entirety and the author’s information is included.

More Americans are taking “til death do us part” seriously. According to the recently released Rutgers University National Marriage Project the number of divorces is declining. But the lower divorce rate is largely because couples are postponing, choosing not to, or are legally unable to get married. Like Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham, and Elton John and David Furnish, these 11 million unmarried couples are in committed relationships and sharing financial obligations, but aren’t entitled to the 1,140 federal laws that apply to married couples.

“Although unmarried couples don’t receive federal protection like married couples, documents can be developed to mirror some of those protections, not just if you break up, but in the event of the death or incapacitation of one of the partners” says Debra Neiman, CFP® and co-author of Money Without Matrimony. “From creating a durable power of attorney to making sure jointly held property is correctly titled, it takes work for unmarried couples to protect themselves financially, but it’s well worth the effort.”

According to Current Population Reports the average American will spend the majority of their life unmarried and those people will likely partner, live together and enter financial commitments with another person. Neiman, with co-author Sheryl Garrett, CFP® caution these couples to do the necessary paperwork and planning while the relationship is good.

“No matter how temporary or permanent the relationship, it’s easier making financial decisions about the future of your relationship while you’re still in love,” says Garrett. “Because there are no laws to protect finances for unmarried couples - barring states that recognize common law marriages - planning today makes a possible break up tomorrow easier, financially speaking.”

And planning is not just for romantically involved couples.

“Whether romantically involved, or not, the issues are the same,” says Neiman. “Everything needs to be in writing including who pays what bills, how rent will be paid and who gets what if the two of you part ways.”

Al Martin is a freelance writer covering real estate, personal finance and investing topics.

There are at least four keys to a marriage that does not end in divorce. The first is communication in prayer with God and with one another. An engaged couple needs to talk about their goals and ambitions in life. Discuss how these goals can best be achieved. Talk about children. In today’s society it is hard to find a common time to pray together but that does not keep the couple from praying for one another.

The second key to a successful marriage is commitment. Couples should make a conscious decision that marriage is like a sacred and permanent lock that keeps them together. Divorce should not be the solution to any problems that occur. Couples should write their own marriage vows so that they will realize the commitment that they are making.

The third key to a marriage that lasts is love. Couples should realize that each individual expresses his/her love in many different ways. Couples who want a successful marriage should treat each other with enough respect to accept how he/she displays emotions. Say, “I Love you”, and mean it. Gently touch her hand; call him at work and leave a message, “I’m thinking of you”. Tuck a photo of yourself in a suitcase or leave a note of love on the pillow.

The fourth key of a successful marriage is the Bible. Let God be the center of the marital relationship like in the marriage of Isaac and Rebekah. Even though marriages in the Bible are different for those in the United States, there are guidelines that engaged couples can follow. Record personal history in a family Bible and pass it on to the next generation so it will be a record of your genealogy.

A marriage that does not end in divorce is based upon keys of communication, commitment, love and the Bible. A successful marriage is one that is permanently locked until the death of one of the spouses.

Pat Strawbridge is a graduate of the University of Mississipp and the Mississippi University for Women and has done postgraduate work at University of Tennessee, Knoxville in Home Economics with emphasis in family relations. She and her husband, Drennon, live in Cleveland, TN near their son, Mike and his wife, Janice, and two grandsons Scott and Will. White Bible Ceremonies for Couples: Advice for Successful Marriage is available in manual form with instructions or CD with photos, instructions and suggestions @ http://www.whitebibleceremony.com.

Women who believe a divorce is a possibility or who think that their husband will be asking about getting a divorce at some point should put their emotions aside and plan “just in case” their intuition is correct that a divorce may be coming in the near future. If women who believe that the “divorce discussion” may be lurking, they should make it a point to look for solid signs that their husband will indeed ask for a divorce…then they should plan accordingly.

Women who think that they are signs that her husband may ask for a divorce but haven’t thought about it deeply or who think that a divorce would better suit them rather than their husbands, should view the situation realistically and as stoically as possible. This will ensure that plan they take is calculated, logical and will benefit them based on what they want the end result to yield.

Often times women refuse to think that a divorce could happen to them and one day their husband comes home and says “There’s something I have been meaning to talk to you about…” or “I think we should get a divorce.” or something similar. If the situation has reached this point, its too late for women to start planning for their financial future after divorce.

So what do women who think a divorce is eminent or who want a divorce for themselves do in order to ensure they aren’t left in financial ruin?

There’s certainly a myriad of tactics that can be used and each woman’s situation is different regarding divorce, but here’s some tactics that will help:

Women and divorce tactic 1:

Once women validate their own reasons for divorce and are sure that divorce is the right path, they should make a plan and keep it to themselves. They shouldn’t let anyone know what they’ve decided to do. They should not tell their friends, co-workers, or family…no one. And they certainly shouldn’t lead on to their husband that they want a divorce if they are the ones who will be making the first move to end the marriage.

Women and divorce tactic 2:

Women in divorce should realize that the plan they take may require several months to implement and they should be patient and plan logically. Women should learn how much money it would take to support themselves (and children if the situation warrants it), how much money is actually available to them now, and how they can adjust their lifestyle to make sure they can financially survive.

Women and divorce tactic 3:

Women who may be facing divorce should look at the household wills. In some cases, it may be legal to take someone out of a will or put someone into a will without that person knowing.

Women and divorce tactic 4:

Women who want to plan for divorce should try to put away cash in the event something dramatic happens unexpectedly. Bit by bit, putting cash away somewhere in a place that cannot be found by heir husband will allow women to make sure they can survive in the event of “unforeseen circumstances”.

Women and divorce tactic 5:

Women who plan on getting divorced should document any events that will strengthen their case against their husband. Occurrences such as physical abuse, verbal abuse, mental abuse, and drunken stupors that end in embaraasment or abuse are examples or instances that should be documented because these happeneings strengthen any case the women have against their husband.

Women and divorce tactic 6:

Women who know that divorce is in their future should do all they can to decrease liabilities and increase their access to money. This includes paying down mutual debt, establishing credit of their own if they do not have credit already, and making sure that the mortgage (if there is one) is paid down as much as possible.

Women and divorce tactic 7:

Women who are serious about getting a divorce or who think that their husband might ask for a divorce in the future should gather all documents that have to do with anything financial that has their name listed. They should make a list of all these items with financial institution name, address, account number, balance, interest rate, etc. Knowing exactly what is at stake financially will help alleviate surprises later.

Planning a divorce can be as painful for women as it can be for men. Generally, women aren’t the breadwinners (although things are getting a lot closer to being ‘new age’ than in previous decades) and getting surprised with divorce papers can have long term financial affects to women who don’t plan accordingly and protect themselves financially.

© Karl Augustine, 2004
“A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce”
An eBook recommended by marriage counselors and relationship coaches to their clients.

Deciding on Divorce

Women and Divorce

There are many types of divorce articles available on the Internet by a variety of authors. What’s below will help you get the most out of the divorce articles here on this site and anywhere else. The below information about divorce articles holds true for most any type of articles on the Internet as well.

When people seek out divorce articles on the Internet, they usually want some sort of information that will help them solve a problem they may be encountering. Of course, the article seeker may just want to be informed about a certain subject for a variety of other reasons. In order for someone to get the most out of divorce articles, they should consider the following items:

1. Divorce article validity based on the source:

When reading a divorce article, consider what the writer has in the way or credibility via credentials or life experience. Writers don’t necessarily have to have advanced degrees to write a credible divorce article, they just have to have a true life experience that helps or otherwise informs in some way for the good of the reader.

2. Divorce article goal:

If you’re reading a divorce article and you find yourself wondering what they goal of it is, try to figure out what the writer’s intention was when writing the article. Articles are written for a variety of reasons…to inform, to help someone improve their life, to sell a book, to sell a service or product, etc. Just because a divorce article is designed to sell a product or service as the end goal, it doesn’t make that article less valid…if the intentions of the reader are also to help someone, and the reader gets something out of the article, chances are it is a worthwhile article.

3. Secondary message of the divorce article:

Take a look at what the divorce article is saying behind the scenes. Assess what you think the divorce article is trying to get across that isn’t always apparent at the first reading. Sometimes authors deliberately write so the reader has to think a little more than in casual reading in order to fully get the message.

If the divorce article is designed to sell a product or service, decide whether or not the divorce article’s theme goes hand in hand with the product or service…does it add value or complement the offering? If so, decide whether you’d like to try the product or service or at least review the product or service to see if it is for you. A reader can tell a lot about the product or service owner by the way the article is written. Is it off topic? Is it detailed? Will the concepts explained in the divorce article apply directly to you?

When reading divorce articles or any other articles on the Internet, always remember that the article is there for a reason. If the author seems to have good intentions (revealed in delivering useful information that you can benefit from) chances are the author may have other articles or information worth your time.

About The Author

Karl Augustine Author, “A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce”. *A resource recommended by marriage counselors to their clients.

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It’s a well known fact that in this day and age most marriages end up in divorce. When confronted with the possibility of “throwing a relationship away”, you’ll probably experience a lot of stress. There are some things you can do to decide if you are in the wrong relationship and if you need to get out.

I have written a few tips and guidelines to help you decide if you are making the right choice when it comes to divorce. This list is just a few key points that I think will help you. The list is not meant to be a complete list of all the steps you need to take, but will give you “food for thought”.

1. Is your partner/spouse abusive? If your signifigant other has abused you in the past, they probably will do so again in the future. If you are in a situation where you continue to be abused you need to GET OUT IMMEDIATELY! Abuse usually get’s worse over time. Even though it may be difficult to leave, there are many resources and support systems for batered people.

2. Has your partner cheated on you? For some people this is unforgiveable. If your partner has cheated on you you need to decide if you will be able to forgive them or not. Be honest with yourself. If you know in your heart of hearts that you will never be able to forgive them - you need to end the relationship.

3. Does your partner make more money than you? Perhaps you would have a better life if you left. If your partner makes more money than you, chances are you’ll get a nice alimony (and child support if you have kids) - when you combine that with your own salary you could have a better life. There are some secrets to getting more money from your divorce and also saving on the costs. If you want to be ruthless and get everything you can from your divorce you will have to find the right Divorce Method.

4. Are you happy in the relationship? Sit back for a moment and think to yourself “Am I happy in my relationship?” If you are happy, then great! If you’re not happy then you need to ask another question. Ask yourself “Can I forsee myself ever being happy in this relationship?” If you can see yourself being happy if some small changes are made, then it might be worth your effort to get marital counselling. I want to mention here that the small changes must come from inside you. You do not have the power to change anyone else (including your spouse). If can’t see yourself EVER being happy you should probably get out of the relationship.

5. Is there anything wrong with Divorce? This is a moral decision you need to decide for YOURSELF. When people are confronted with the possiblity of divorce, they usually think about how other people will judge them morally if they get divorced. You need to decide for yourself. Forget about what your parents, priest, minister, rabbi, friends, co-workers, etc.. think about the moral decision for divorce. Take the time to think to yourself “Based on my experiences in my life, Would it be morally ‘wrong’ to get divorced?” This may be a hard decision for you to make, but you need to make it. You should not do something that you believe is morally wrong. You also shouldn’t be obligated to not do something that you want to do if you think it is morally acceptable.

I hope these 5 points have given you some resources that you can decide if you need to get divorced or not. The decision to divorce is never easy, but you do have options. You need to be able to look at your life as whole and decide if it is good or bad. You also need to look at every possible aspect of your relationship with your spouse and see if the good outweighs the bad, or if the bad outweighs the good. Sometimes your judgement is clouded when you only focus on the good or only on the bad. The bottom line is to do what you need to do to have a more fulfilling and happy life.

Good Luck in Life,

Kyle Chambers

About The Author

Kyle Chambers is a specialist at getting the most financially and mentally out of your divorce. Hundreds of people have already benefitted by little-known tricks in getting more money, custody rights, and just about everything else you want from your divorce. To get the most out of your divorce go to http://www.DivorceMethod.com